Comments on Pulling the puzzles apart: I wish I know why

Yes this is a really interesting post.They're just...

2007-09-14T19:46:00.000+04:00

Yes this is a really interesting post.

They're just so happy and proud that they're locals that sometimes that cloud their judgment and they would say things that I don't think are even acceptable in Islam.

I've heard relatives and friends back home say just the kind of equivalent things, that if they heard someone else say them they would be appalled. Cultural pride/patriotism/etc can cloud people's judgements and perceptions.

I think when it comes to children doing "safe" things, like changing their hair, then it's best to be a bit disapproving - so the kid can feel successfully "rebellious" - but not go off the deep end. Better that a child gets their teenage kicks from braids or a rude slogan t-shirt than from tattoos/drugs/worse stuff.

i just re-read this post again. Its a really good ...

2007-02-24T17:54:00.000+04:00

i just re-read this post again. Its a really good post.

fragile, Thanks for passing by and for the commen...

2007-01-27T21:58:00.000+04:00

fragile,

Thanks for passing by and for the comments. I guess I'm just used to my parents being open about things in general that when they react like this about anything I just don't get it. Maybe my parents might have been okay with my brother doing it abroad (for example when we were in Africa) but not here because my dad thought that if someone saw his son like that they don't get it and will automatically judge him, that's what I finally understood, the reason what makes sense to me anyways. My dad goes to the mall almost every day wearing pants but no one would dare judge him because everyone knows him, so that's the difference I guess.

Biz,
I always tell them I will marry someone who will shock them but they insist that I'm 'bint eltejar' haha. (everyone else, that's a joke btw)

I can relate. My younger brother got corn rows las...

2007-01-26T23:08:00.000+04:00

I can relate. My younger brother got corn rows last year (braided his hair) and my mom threw a fit. She said he looked like the devil.

His professors at the engineering college told him that engineering isnt a joke. My brother cleared the air saying ' I know its not a joke, thats why I have a 4.0 GPA.'

Its just how society sees it. If he went to syria with his hair like that, there would be soo much controversy over it. Even here people didnt get it, but the younger generation do, and they all thought it was soo cool.

I mean he grew up in America, and hes an athelete, so he did it.
Hes young and enjoying life before he going to be another guy in a suit.

The whole racism issue, its sad. Arabs in general are racist. Its haram and shameful that we have these thoughts even today.

When people ask me where im from, i'm just going to say 'the dirt, just like you'

big comment :p so much to say about it :)

2007-01-26T19:08:00.002+04:00

big comment :p
so much to say about it :)

For the hair braiding and why your dad was ok for ...

2007-01-26T19:08:00.001+04:00

For the hair braiding and why your dad was ok for u to do in London and your brother not is because they are not used to such stuff, don’t you hear that it is funny in a way to see a local 45 years old man wearing jeans and hanging around in AD? But if he does so in London is ok and normal. Like it is ok to go crazy outside the country but here no 3eeb and Haram. I think it is the same way or method of thinking, but when he saw his son with his hair braid he might got embraced. Personally it is kinda cool to braid hair for kids but maybe when little bit grown up it is bad bad bad as maybe your dad sees your brother as a man and do not want to spoil him.

Hi MJ You know that our parents’ generation lived...

2007-01-26T19:08:00.000+04:00

Hi MJ

You know that our parents’ generation lived and grew up in a society and tradition somehow different than ours. Society got opened so fast if u compared year 1985 to now. What it used to be Haram and wrong now is ok and people do it normally, for example it has been so close on women that time but now as u can see. Many changes happened in last decade and with more trends and ‘fanatek’ coming up these days old fashion people finds it hard to accept or see it on their kids.