My man theory:
When a wife talks about her husband, she says in Arab 'Rajlee' or 'Raylee' which means my man, and is also so close to the word 'my foot'. A woman says that because deep down in her subconscious mind she thinks of her husband as her foot and that she can takes him with her wherever she wants to go.
Love theory:
People can only love one person at a time. So if a husband loved his wife and she died, he will still love her but his love to her will 'dim' with time and he will be able to love another.
This theory was discussed after Biz told me that in Leo the African he will not go back to Heba.
Saturday, December 17, 2005
My man, my leg and other theories:
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I really want something to write about and I can swear there was something I wanted to write about last night and now I can't remember!!
*goes to sit in a corner and read with headphones on to block everyone out*
probaby u wanna write about something that has pissed you off..
go on.. get it off ur chest
probably sometimes to do with uni
yes yes i remember these theories.
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>>*goes to sit in a corner and read with headphones on to block everyone out* <<
i was correcting the MC'S speechs before they made fools out of themselves. How could they not check the english version, and translate word for word from arabic to english? I'm going to have a talk with the translator. If you aren't going to do something properly then don't do it at all. Your excuse of not having enough time is not a valid excuse.
Plus these new MC'S suck. :/
Buj, today I thought of something that pissed me off and got me thinking of many things. I will just not post it on this blog because:
1. It's personal
2. It might insult you and I would be talking about someone related to you.
At least everyone who knows me think I did more in my life than most people my age and I really don't like going around insulting people on their face, it is not one of my hobbies.
oh yeah AND I DO HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOUR AT LEAST!
MJ!! you cannot make me smell the coffee then not give me a cup!
What do you want to write about? Why would it be personal? Also to my knowledge I don't think that you know anyone who's related to me. I could be wrong though!
>>>write write write>>> :-)
I think the trains are running late today :(
These theories are mine, I thought of them!
... and all theories come from experience and knowledge gained through the years.
I'm tired and can't write more today. sorry buj, maybe tomorrow.
oh crap, just thought of what I have to do tonight:
- study for a 10% test tomorrow.
- Make sure I have the final draft of a report ready to 'present' tomorrow.
- finish leo the african.
I asked some people about this and some agreed, while many didn't. It started a long discussion about all that and about polygamy too.
How can you love more than one person at a time the same way and strength? Maybe you can love more than one person but there will always be difference, there will always be one person that you truly love.
>>Any psychologist will also tell you that this is why people who practise polygamy can do so, successfully.<<
I will ask a psychologist and tell you later what she thinks.
People are diffferent and there are always exception in every society. Correct me if I'm wrong but there is a phrase in the Quran that says 'if you can't ye3del between your wives then only marry one' or something like that and when the prophet PBUH was asked about it he said that if is difficult for man to ye3del and love all his wives.
I can understand if some people disagree, but maybe we believe this theory is true because we grew up in a special and different kind of atmosphere (homes).
gtg to class.
maybe I think so because i'm just so picky.
>>But you are talking about something you have not experienced, and until you do you will have no knowledge on this subject.<<
You know NOTHING of what I have experienced.
I don't think i'm capable of that. or even want to be. (loving more than one person)
I don't want to talk more about all this, it's too personal.
cg you sound like one of those mean cynical bitter old women who have nothing better to do but to sit on the sidelines and comment.
(they also have that faint stench of cigarrette smoke).
....don't you have something better to do, like.... tend to your children?
sorry about the above ^^, sometimes i just need to curb by tongue.
anyways,
I gave this much thought. Love is not something you can simplify define. You can't really categorize it or put it into simple terms. Its powerful and its intense and at times it leaves you baffled.
It varies from person to person. Some can love more than one at a time, and some just can't. A psychologist said "One who does love more than one at the same time, goes through a tug- of- war of emotions. Its extremely intense and goes through a lot of internal emotions and grief."
I just say, one shouldn't idealize so much, because their world is easier to shatter. I believe you can love more than once. Love means many things. Could I personally love 2 people at the same time? I just don't know.
I believe that one can love more than one person at a time, and this is as a result of personal experience unfortunately. However, never can two or more loves have the same intensity or feeling, there is no absolute but there is no one scale.
To use more simple language, if love is a fruit, then you can love both oranges and apples, but you cannot compare your love for apples to that of oranges.
CG.. bloody trains.. i hate being late, but i cannot apologise for something i have no control over.
In a week I'll have to make do with Dubain traffic.. oh and then let the fun begin!
Firstly I am no bitter woman here...just experienced and extremely happy with life.
Secondly there are no stenches of anything smoke-ish coming from my side expect some beautiful Bakhoor.
And yes, I have plenty of things to do, inlcuding running 2 companies, something that your narrow mind may limit you from doing if you continue to be so 'full of it' at such a young age.
MJ...all I ever wanted to point out is that your theory does not govern all people. It is your ideal and your hope. Experience has taught me that living on hopes is dreaming.
Buj. Thanks for that. Tonight I will send the driver so you don't have to battle the train system.
I would never accept that someone loves me like someone else, so why would the person I love be ok with that, and so I don't expect him to be.
>>"One who does love more than one at the same time, goes through a tug- of- war of emotions. Its extremely intense and goes through a lot of internal emotions and grief."<<
Loving one person can do that too, I can't imagine how it would feel if it was doubled. :S
I believe a theory about personality can never govern all people too.
and what's up with the trains and drivers?
cg: Living on hopes is dreaming, but building on them is another story,,,
mj: one could argue that love is an emotion unto itself,,,an addiction of sorts,,,I really dont know
Hello 3lo g! and thanks for commenting.
I really don't know what I think anymore, it feel too complicated to just write in few paragraphs. I don't even think I want to understand love and emotions, easier to just live life as it come and take it easy!
Wow MJ,
Believe it or not, I DO believe in your theory of love, because I believe that your theory speaks of true love, which is pure and unconditional. I heave read some of the comments... and wow... they are harsh. First of all... for us "narrow-minded" people who believe that you can only truly love one person in that way at a time, I think there is an added sense of selflessness involved. Now first of all, yes you can 'love' more than one person at a time, but not in that true uncoditional way. ONE of the two you do not love... or perhaps I dare to say further, that you love neither; for if you DID love one of the two, you would understand that the other has a lesser meaning to you. If you TRULY loved someone in the first place, then there wouldn't be enough space in your own mind to allow for more, because that one would make up your world.
"To the world you are one person;
and to one person, you are the world"
That is real love, and until you can experience that, you don't understand it. Perhaps another issue for us "narrow-minded" individuals is our sense of what the person we love means to us and what we see in them. Needless to say, there are going to be qualities that we see as being attractive in others, but when you really love someone in the way you are indicating, then there is no need or even room to make way for another. Another issue is that althought you can love qualities ABOUT someone, it is not love until you make it so. It does require effort to love someone (and it may not be concious, but you are putting forth an effort, even though it may be natural and so small that it may not be taken note of or appreciated), and if you are splitting that effort and love between two people, then you you are not giving the full amount to one person, and so therefore you are not surrendering and providing one person with true love that we are discussing here, and so therefore this entire speech is not even relevant to you, since you are not even truly in love. That is not to say that you wouldn't love two people, but not in the that deep sort of way that this blog and statement makes reference to, because if you really love them, you provide them with all of your love, and to split it would be selfish, simply because both or at least one of them I'm sure deserves a true love, and deserves to have more faith and loyalty (the full amount due to them) present within that love (unless of course they are both ok with having having something that is mediocre).
So in conclusion, you can LOVE more than one person.. but you cannot feel TRUE LOVE (in a partnership / relationship / marriage sense) for more than one person... or else you are not only fooling and being selfish towards them for convincing them of this, but you are also fooling yourself. And another comment... if you are confused to the point where you are "in love" with two... and battling your emotions, you are just that... confused... not in love.
Sincerely,
Tom Langzik
Thanks for commenting Tom. :)
I was just talking to a friend and were discussing this when I came up with this:
"love is like energy, it is never lost, it changes from one form to another sometimes."
When you love someone, you will always be stuck with that and it will always be like that. If a relationship went wrong them maybe that love would be transfered into something else, but we can still call that thing a form of love.
I'm not sure i'm making much sense...
did you ever?
I think she makes a lot more sense than you can even begin to comprehend in that respect. Perhaps you see things as a literal sort of black and white CJ, while mj has the tendency to see things with a sort of depth that doesn't JUST read between the lines, but also goes beyond that to comprehend and expand their deeper meanings as well.
Although my opinion is just another opinion as all the rest, I do believe that perhaps it would be much appreciated if you could spare some of that vast quantity of energy that you use to run your two companies and go out of your way to put people down, and perhaps invest it in showing others some respect. I am sure you have your reasons for being the character you are, but perhaps it is time for some inner reflection and meditation so that you can work on discovering who you are and go further to improving who you are as a person. I pray you take this message not as an insult, but rather a few words of advice or recomendation. Good luck in your quest, should you choose to accept it.
Just Another,
Tom Langzik
im not even going to respond to that.
you just did. In a Krapeez Times kind of way too.
Hilarious you are. Here is a hole. Jump in it. PLOP!!
2 down.
end of drama.
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